What if we lived in a world where not every family member had to have “special” status over others (those outside the family)? What if we lived in a world where not every friendship had to be or stay platonic? What if not every romantic relationship had to be spiritual? What if not every sexual relationship had to be romantic? Not every romantic relationship had to be sexual? What if we lived in a land where not every marriage had to be sexual or was assumed to be sexual in nature? What is marriage was no longer a legal state but rather a state that was outside laws/codes/government? What if romance between consenting people did not feel like it “should” be building toward, or oriented toward, monogamy and/or marriage? What if people felt like they could stay together in a romantisexual context after it was discussed that one or more parties wanted to have intimacies (sexual, emotional, and/or spiritual) with one or more parties who are not “inside” the relationship? What if our culture talked about the notion of relationship orientation more? What if our culture refrained from defining a relationship as “this” or “that”? Or, what if not every relationship had to be based on some hierarchical arrangement (i.e. “my partner is more important than my friend, but my blood family is more important than my partner,” etc.)? What if we employed “relationship anarchy” (a term closely related to polyamory but not synonymous with it)—and thus refuse to label or give credence to the notion of “relationship” at all?
…How would this change everyday life? How would this change our attitudes? Our workplaces? Our home spaces? Our affective states? Our proximities to others? Our quiet moments alone? Our ethical, moral, philosophical actions and ideas?
…How would it change your life?