Category Archives: questions

Short & Not-So-Sweet

Posted on April 23, 2013 by Anya Light

All of the poly people I know that are in the closet as poly (at least partially) work for corporate America. The ones that are “out” work in academia, are unemployed, or are freelance artists or own their own business. … Continue reading →

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Reaching Out; Wanting More (A Swirl of Ideas Today)

Posted on January 16, 2013 by Anya Light

Lately, a lot of terrific people have been reaching out to me. Activists, friends, potential collaborators, other academics. A few weeks ago, a woman doing her masters degree in Quebec/Canada emailed me, telling me about her thesis work in french … Continue reading →

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Thoughts on The Closet

Posted on October 30, 2012 by Anya Light

In his essay “Public and Private,” literary theorist and cultural critic Michael Warner (one of my all-time favorite writers) has this to say about closets: “Speech everywhere is regulated unequally. Yet, ironically, common mythology understands the closet as an individual’s … Continue reading →

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More on New Relationship Energy (NRE)

Posted on August 3, 2012 by Anya Light

To learn about NRE—and to truly accept that the concept of NRE is real—is to become, in a way, less naïve. And being less naïve is a good thing…right? Well, one could argue the opposite. One can say that recognizing … Continue reading →

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On Being a Sub

Posted on June 25, 2012 by Anya Light

A subculture flourishes precisely because it functions below the proverbial radar. One could argue that a subculture isn’t in a position to “flourish” and that this place is an entirely shitty place to be because it is a place devoid … Continue reading →

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The Freak Show

Posted on June 12, 2012 by Anya Light

In Susan Miller’s now-classic academic text, Textual Carnivals: The Politics of Composition, she discusses how literature faculty are the “normal” group within an English department, and how rhetoric & composition faculty are the odd group, the weirdos, the stigmatized—the carnival/circus … Continue reading →

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The personal is political…

Posted on May 15, 2012 by Anya Light

I am a female, bisexual, polyamorous, white, middle-class, academic of 29 years of age. I sometimes purposely undertake certain “male” performances, such as dress and body movement/gesture, but mostly I appear as a rather feminine person. I have small breasts … Continue reading →

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The Natural/Unnatural Debate

Posted on April 28, 2012 by Anya Light

I hesitate from using the word “natural” in debates regarding sexuality or society. Perhaps it would be more accurate, actually, to say that I actively resist it and do not value it. In saying something, someone, some act, some idea, … Continue reading →

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Gossip, Backlash, Difficult Emotions

Posted on April 27, 2012 by Anya Light

Of course, it should come as no surprise to find out from a dear friend that my coming out has caused quite a stir. And it should also come as little shock that this stir has been going on entirely … Continue reading →

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Paul Lowe on jealousy, on being in the moment “with what is”

Posted on April 20, 2012 by Anya Light

A man comes to the teacher Paul Lowe, looking for answers. He is jealous, because his wife is connecting with another person. This is Paul’s response, here, in this podcast: Jealousy: A Cocktail of Emotions Rather than me trying to … Continue reading →

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