Category Archives: terminology

Categories & Binaries?

Posted on July 2, 2013 by Anya Light

My vision of the queer–poly blend goes beyond just promoting, celebrating, or exposing additional identities or additional categories. Though this is a noble goal, eventually we may find that we are exhausted at adding one more letter in long acronyms … Continue reading →

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Polynormativity

Posted on January 25, 2013 by Anya Light

Today I read an excellent post by my favorite sexuality blogger quizzicalpussy. She wrote about the brand-spanking new concept of “polynormativity” (apparently coined so recently that the ink hasn’t yet dried): the idea that poly people are “supposed to have” hierarchies … Continue reading →

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Reaching Out; Wanting More (A Swirl of Ideas Today)

Posted on January 16, 2013 by Anya Light

Lately, a lot of terrific people have been reaching out to me. Activists, friends, potential collaborators, other academics. A few weeks ago, a woman doing her masters degree in Quebec/Canada emailed me, telling me about her thesis work in french … Continue reading →

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More on New Relationship Energy (NRE)

Posted on August 3, 2012 by Anya Light

To learn about NRE—and to truly accept that the concept of NRE is real—is to become, in a way, less naïve. And being less naïve is a good thing…right? Well, one could argue the opposite. One can say that recognizing … Continue reading →

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New York, Gay Men, Polyamory, Polyfidelity

Posted on May 10, 2012 by Anya Light

Click here to watch a short 6-minute documentary, Polyamorous Relationships in New York City. The film shows a polyfidelitous (closed relationship) of three men in New York’s Chelsea neighborhood.

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NRE (Or, “What I’m In”)

Posted on May 8, 2012 by Anya Light

The term New Relationship Energy (or, NRE for short) was coined in the mid 1980’s by Zhahai Stewart, a poly/pagan writer. NRE can be invaluable for helping people understand the birth of both poly, monogamous, or other forms of relationships. … Continue reading →

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The Natural/Unnatural Debate

Posted on April 28, 2012 by Anya Light

I hesitate from using the word “natural” in debates regarding sexuality or society. Perhaps it would be more accurate, actually, to say that I actively resist it and do not value it. In saying something, someone, some act, some idea, … Continue reading →

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“What I really meant to say…”

Posted on April 13, 2012 by Anya Light

We all have our own versions of words. My version of “rhetoric” is not what you mean, what she means, what he means, what they mean, when the word “rhetoric” is used. Neither is a simple word like “compose.” When … Continue reading →

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Love, Compersion, and Jealousy

Posted on March 29, 2012 by Anya Light

There is truth(s) in monogamy, and there is truth(s) in polyamory. There are truth(s) for different times within the same person’s life. And there are truth(s) that we can all recognize. One of those truths is love. While LBGTQ couples … Continue reading →

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