Category Archives: terminology

Categories & Binaries?

My vision of the queer–poly blend goes beyond just promoting, celebrating, or exposing additional identities or additional categories. Though this is a noble goal, eventually we may find that we are exhausted at adding one more letter in long acronyms … Continue reading

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Polynormativity

Today I read an excellent post by my favorite sexuality blogger quizzicalpussy. She wrote about the brand-spanking new concept of “polynormativity” (apparently coined so recently that the ink hasn’t yet dried): the idea that poly people are “supposed to have” hierarchies … Continue reading

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Reaching Out; Wanting More (A Swirl of Ideas Today)

Lately, a lot of terrific people have been reaching out to me. Activists, friends, potential collaborators, other academics. A few weeks ago, a woman doing her masters degree in Quebec/Canada emailed me, telling me about her thesis work in french … Continue reading

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More on New Relationship Energy (NRE)

To learn about NRE—and to truly accept that the concept of NRE is real—is to become, in a way, less naïve. And being less naïve is a good thing…right? Well, one could argue the opposite. One can say that recognizing … Continue reading

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New York, Gay Men, Polyamory, Polyfidelity

Click here to watch a short 6-minute documentary, Polyamorous Relationships in New York City. The film shows a polyfidelitous (closed relationship) of three men in New York’s Chelsea neighborhood.

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NRE (Or, “What I’m In”)

The term New Relationship Energy (or, NRE for short) was coined in the mid 1980’s by Zhahai Stewart, a poly/pagan writer. NRE can be invaluable for helping people understand the birth of both poly, monogamous, or other forms of relationships. … Continue reading

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The Natural/Unnatural Debate

I hesitate from using the word “natural” in debates regarding sexuality or society. Perhaps it would be more accurate, actually, to say that I actively resist it and do not value it. In saying something, someone, some act, some idea, … Continue reading

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